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Honesty is the best policy. So why don’t more people practice it?
Lots of reasons: being too embarrassed to tell the truth, not wanting to be inconvenienced or, yeah, hoping to get away with something.
Some lies are outright deceptions, such as saying “I’ll pay you back” when your pal lends you $20 at Dave & Buster’s. You know that since he’s had several beers he will forget he handed over that double sawbuck. Then you probably justify the falsehood by telling yourself, “After all, I drove so he could have a few beers with the nachos. So with the price of gas I think it worked out fairly.”
You liar, you.
Other lies are more like wishful thinking, such as replying, “Oh, it didn’t cost that much” when a spouse notices your new outfit. Even though the two of you have agreed on a budget to meet financial goals, you lied to your partner about the frivolous expense.
Likely you lied to yourself, too: “Looking good is important at my job, so this is like an investment in my future.” Keep telling yourself that, you fibber. You know you have plenty of nice clothing already.
Here are some lies that most of us are guilty of telling. Any of them sound familiar?
1. I’ll do it later
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Just about everyone is guilty of putting off things until “later,” which could mean sometime between today and never. And if we’re lucky, we “forget” something needed to be done and someone else might do it. (Shame on us.)
Pro tip: If you really are the forgetful type, set a reminder on your phone, computer or maybe even an old-school desk calendar. Hold yourself accountable!
2. Let me know if I can help
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Someone you know just got laid off, or was hit by a huge and unexpected expense, or is experiencing long COVID. You tell them how sorry you are to hear that, and end the conversation with, “Hang in there! And let me know if I can do anything to help.”
Trouble is, lots of people are too embarrassed to ask for that help. That’s why you need to offer few concrete suggestions: helping craft a killer resume, showing how to track spending/build a budget (Money Talks News’ budgeting articles are a great place to start), mowing the lawn or walking the dog.
And if you really don’t want to help? Don’t lie. Just end the conversation with something like, “I hope your situation improves soon.”</…….