My father has a clinical diagnosis of dementia, and is being scammed by my brother. Ostensibly, he is “taking care” of my dad. I and two sisters live in another state. However, Dad has 24/7 care from two lovely ladies who do all the work. My brother visits and claims he is “supervising.”
He is being paid $4,000 cash a month for being a son, not a caretaker. This is pathetic because he literally cannot take care of himself, let alone be responsible for another person. The two ladies who do everything for my dad report that my brother literally does nothing for him.
At Christmas it became clear that my brother is lying to my father, borrowing God knows how much money with no intention of paying it back. He also has an outstanding $50,000 line of credit on the condo my dad lives in that is held in trust and owned by the four siblings.
“‘My brother is lying to my father, borrowing God knows how much money with no intention of paying it back.’”
My brother just sold his house, and he owes $175,000 on it. My father believes my brother is going to pay him back from the sale of the house, which he originally bought for my brother in cash.
My brother is an alcoholic and has taken lavish vacations and bought his daughter a car, diamond earrings, and designer clothes and jewelry. He also does not report any earned income to the Internal Revenue Service, and receives disability payments for anxiety. I think he is a liar and a cheat, and it brings me no joy to say he has been his whole life.
My eldest sister has power of attorney, but she is the kindest person I’ve ever met. I doubt she will take over the running of my father’s estate, as she herself is very well off and I don’t think she cares about the money.
Not to be greedy, but my retirement plan included being a part of Dad’s generosity, and now he has cut off the three sisters, apologizing to us, and yet is still funding my brother’s lavish spending habits.
I honestly think he has no idea what a mess my brother has put himself in. I also feel what my lazy brother is doing is disrespectful and illegal. Without having power of attorney, is there any advice you can send my way? I fear being cut off, and I need advice to move forward.