Stay-at-home moms (SAHM) have long been under-appreciated. In fact, a Salary.com study found that SAHM’s should be making $178,201 a year for all the work they do (and that was pre-pandemic!). But one thing that makes the often thankless job of taking care of kids and the house all day is a partner’s loving support and appreciation — something this Reddit dad can’t quite figure out.
In Reddit’s Am I The A–hole? forum, a dad is wondering if he’s in the wrong for telling his wife, a SAHM of 2-year-old twins, that she should just “get on” with her job when she asked for small gestures of appreciation from him, like “buying her favorite bar of chocolate.” Yes, you read that correctly. This woman wants a little sugar and a thank you, and apparently that is too much for her husband.
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The thread starts by explaining that the two “both agreed that my wife would be a SAHM” because they have no family nearby, while the husband works. He makes it clear that they “were both in agreement and my wife made it clear she wanted to enjoy seeing our kids grow up.” So just because she agreed to something before her kids were born means it’s too late to say, “thank you” now? OK, sure…
The husband also generously (I am rolling my eyes) says, “I don’t give my wife any spending limits (obviously we discuss big purchases) so she is free to buy herself things, I make sure she has access to money.” Sir, do you expect a medal for not imposing abusive control over the family’s finances?
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He also added that his wife (basically a superhero) also “takes care of everything around the house.” So, he works from home from 7 a.m.-5 p.m., then watches the kids while his wife cooks dinner. They both put the kids to bed, then his wife cleans up, keeping the house “spotless.” But here’s the kicker: his wife asked to be appreciated and he just doesn’t want to.
“Recently, she has been coming to me and saying that she feels burned out, unappreciated and taken for granted,” the dad wrote. “I asked if I could do anything to help and she said that it would be nice if I did something now and again to show that I appreciated her. E.g. buying her favorite bar of chocolate when I go to the shop or something small, just as …….
Source: https://www.yahoo.com/lifestyle/husband-balks-burned-sahm-asks-153021612.html
