My mother recently passed away. My brother had been living with and caring for her for a couple of years and was the one to find her after she died.
Her will states that the house is to be shared equally between all her children, but also that my brother who has been living there gets to stay for 12 months, rent-free, so long as he pays the bills that go along with the house. That includes insurance, taxes and utilities.
My brother plans to move out of state in about seven years, and is suggesting we hold off selling until that time as he believes the house will be worth more by then. While we weren’t thrilled about waiting, we decided moving twice could be a pain. When it was suggested that he will have to start paying some sort of rent when the 12 months is up, he was not happy. He feels that — given he’s paying all the bills — that should be enough as the property taxes are very high in New York.
We’re not looking to rip him off, but at the same time we’ve all got mortgages or rent and bills to pay as well, and don’t feel he’s entitled to continue to live rent-free beyond his 12 months. Additionally, he claims that if he has to buy the home or move out at the 12 month mark, that he is entitled to an additional 6 months, rent-free of course, to find another place to live. We don’t want to be jerks, but this feels a bit entitled. What are our rights?
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I’m so sorry for your family’s loss, and that you all have been dealing with the stressful fallout that often comes when a parent dies. It’s noble that your brother offered to help out your mother during the last couple years, and I’m sure his support made things much easier for you and your siblings. And I can scarcely imagine how tough it was for him to go through her passing as he did.
That, however, does not excuse his behavior in negotiating her home and its eventual sale. It was very kind of your mother to have …….