Money matters shouldn’t be kept in the dark.
- A new survey reveals a large portion of Americans would rather avoid money talks with their partners or spouses.
- By discussing financial matters openly, you can work to avoid problems while targeting specific goals.
Being in a relationship often means having difficult or uncomfortable conversations. Those might include topics like health matters, children, religion, and money.
But the latter is something a large chunk of Americans would rather not talk about with their partners. In a recent NFCC and Wells Fargo survey, 40% of respondents say they’d rather avoid the topic of money with a partner or spouse. But that’s a big mistake — one that could have serious consequences.
The importance of syncing finances
Some people who get married or decide to share a life together get joint bank accounts and pay their expenses that way. Others retain more independence in both regards. Either way, it’s important to talk about money with your partner to not only avoid financial problems, but also make sure you’re working toward mutual or even individual goals.
Imagine your partner comes into your relationship with $20,000 in credit card debt. That’s the sort of thing that could make it difficult to buy a home together or meet other goals. If your partner covers that up or simply keeps quiet about it, you may not know that debt exists until you apply jointly for a mortgage and find your application gets rejected. The result? A financial blow, but also, a potential blow to your relationship.
That’s why being open about money matters is a better idea. Specifically, you and your partner should make a point to talk about:
- What your income entails
- How much money you each have in savings and investments
- How much debt you have, and what type
- What your respective credit scores look like
You should also, if you’re living together and splitting expenses, get on a joint budget that outlines what your various spending categories look like. If you don’t plan to pay expenses from a joint account or split them evenly, then you’ll need to make a clear plan that maps out who’s responsible for which bills.
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